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What to Do With the Flag Grommets from a Retirement Ceremony

A flag retirement ceremony is a special way to honor the American flag when it becomes too worn or damaged to be displayed. During the ceremony, the flag is respectfully cut and burned in a fire. This act shows gratitude for the flag’s service and the country it represents. Many people see this as a time to reflect on the values of the United States, and the ceremony is often solemn and meaningful.

Each part of the flag has its own role in the ceremony. This includes the fabric, stars, and stripes, which all have symbolic meaning. But what about the small metal pieces attached to the flag? These metal rings are called flag grommets. Flag grommets are usually made of brass or another metal, and they are located along the edge of the flag. They are used to secure the flag to a flagpole, protecting the fabric from tearing when it’s flown.

Since flag grommets are not fabric, they don’t burn in the ceremony. This raises a question: What should be done with them after the ceremony? Many people wonder if these small pieces should be saved, given away, or buried with the ashes. There are different opinions on this, and no single answer.

Some see flag grommets as a valuable piece of the retired flag. Others feel that grommets are not a real part of the flag’s symbolism. This article will explore different ways people handle flag grommets in a retirement ceremony. It will cover common practices, creative ideas, and respectful options for this small but significant part of the flag.

Do Flag Grommets Hold Symbolic Meaning?

In a flag retirement ceremony, every piece of the flag has special meaning for many people. Some people feel that even the flag grommets carry symbolic value. They believe that because these metal rings help the flag fly, they should be treated with respect. Grommets connect the flag to the pole, which allows the flag to be seen by everyone. In this way, they play an important role in the flag’s purpose and presence.

For others, the grommets are simply practical parts of the flag. They see them as useful, but not as symbolic. Since grommets don’t display the flag’s colors, stars, or stripes, some people feel they are separate from the true symbol of the flag. For them, the fabric parts hold all the symbolic meaning, and the grommets are just hardware.

There are also people who find a middle ground. They see value in honoring every part of the flag, including the grommets, because they believe each part has played a role. They may keep the grommets as small mementos, but they don’t view them as highly symbolic. Instead, they may see them as a simple way to remember the flag’s service.

Each of these views shows the range of ways people approach flag retirement ceremonies. Whether a person sees flag grommets as deeply meaningful or as practical pieces, the important thing is to treat the entire process with respect. Different traditions around flag grommets allow people to express their own connection to the flag and what it represents.

Common Ways to Show Respect

People handle flag grommets in different ways after a retirement ceremony. One common approach is to bury the grommets with the ashes of the flag. This method is often seen as a complete and respectful way to end the flag’s service. By burying the grommets, people feel they are honoring the whole flag, including every part of it. This approach is simple and final, and it allows the grommets to rest with the ashes.

Another way to show respect with flag grommets is to polish them and give them to veterans or the person who donated the flag. In this way, the grommets become a small token of appreciation and respect. Veterans, in particular, may appreciate receiving a grommet as a symbol of the flag they served under. Polishing the grommets before gifting them makes them feel more like a keepsake and less like a piece of hardware.

Sometimes, people also present the flag grommets to the Scouts, leaders, or other individuals who took part in the retirement ceremony. This can be a meaningful way to thank those who respectfully handled the flag’s retirement. It allows participants to carry a piece of the retired flag with them as a memory of the ceremony. This option can be especially meaningful in scouting, where respect for the flag is an important part of the program.

Each of these approaches reflects different ways of honoring the flag. Whether the grommets are buried, given to veterans, or kept as mementos, the goal is to handle them with respect. These small pieces, though simple, are part of the flag’s story. The choice of what to do with them allows people to honor the flag in a way that feels right to them.

Unique Ways to Preserve Flag Grommets

For those who want to keep a piece of a retired flag, flag grommets can be turned into simple, meaningful keepsakes. Here are a few creative ways to use them as reminders of the flag’s service.

  • Key Chains
    One practical and sentimental idea is to make a key chain with the flag grommet. A grommet can be attached to a key ring, creating a small keepsake that’s easy to carry every day. This way, people can carry a piece of the retired flag with them wherever they go. It’s a simple way to honor the flag’s memory and keep it close.
  • Framed Memento
    Some people choose to frame the grommet as a memento. The grommet can be placed in a small shadow box or display frame along with a piece of the flag or a label noting the date and place of the retirement ceremony. This framed piece can then be displayed at home or given as a gift. Framing the grommet in this way turns it into a respectful tribute that can be shared with others.
  • Mounted on a Plaque
    A grommet can also be mounted on a small plaque as a way to remember the flag. The plaque can include the grommet, a photo of the flag, and a brief inscription. This can be a good choice for people who want a more formal keepsake to hang on a wall or place on a shelf.
  • Part of a Jewelry Piece
    For those who enjoy crafts, the grommet can be incorporated into jewelry. It could be added to a bracelet or necklace as a simple charm. This type of keepsake might especially appeal to someone who prefers something subtle and personal.

Each of these options allows people to carry or display a meaningful piece of the flag’s history. Turning a flag grommet into a keepsake gives it new purpose and helps keep the memory of the retired flag alive.

Flag Grommets: Symbolic or Just Practical?

Some people believe that flag grommets are not truly symbolic. They see the fabric, stars, and stripes as the main symbols of the flag. The fabric represents the nation’s ideals, while the stars and stripes stand for unity and history. Grommets, in this view, are just practical parts that hold the flag to the pole. They do not carry the same emotional or historical meaning.

Because of this perspective, some people choose not to treat grommets with special significance during a flag retirement ceremony. They may discard or recycle them without a specific ritual. For them, this is not a sign of disrespect. Instead, it is simply a way to separate the symbolic parts of the flag from the practical parts.

Others, however, feel that the grommets deserve respectful handling. Even though grommets may not hold deep symbolism, they still played a role in flying the flag. In this view, giving the grommets a respectful end is a way to honor the flag as a whole. Some choose to bury the grommets with the ashes or keep them as mementos to show respect for all parts of the flag.

These different views show that respect can be shown in different ways. Some see a respectful end as treating grommets as symbolic, while others focus only on the fabric parts. Both approaches are valid, and each person or group can decide what feels right to them.

More Resources and Ideas

A Simple Flag Retirement Ceremony

A simple flag retirement ceremony helps Cub Scouts learn to respect the American flag. The U.S. Flag Code says a flag should be “destroyed in a dignified way, preferably by burning” when it’s too worn for display. This guidance reminds us to treat the flag with honor, even as it retires. A ceremony like this teaches young Scouts about the values the flag represents—freedom, courage, and unity. As they respectfully retire the flag, Scouts develop a sense of duty and respect for their country and its symbols. It’s a meaningful way to honor both the flag and those who served under it.

Why Ceremonies are an Important Part of Scouting

Frequently Asked Questions on Flag Grommets in Retirement Ceremonies

What are flag grommets?

Flag grommets are small metal rings found along the edge of a flag. They help attach the flag to the pole and keep it secure while flying.

Do flag grommets have any special meaning?

Some people see grommets as practical parts only, not symbolic. Others believe they deserve respect because they help the flag serve its purpose. There’s no single answer—how people handle them depends on personal or group views.

What should we do with the grommets after a flag retirement ceremony?

Common options include burying the grommets with the ashes, giving them to veterans, making keepsakes, or framing them. Some people also choose to discard them separately if they see them as non-symbolic.

Is it disrespectful to throw away the grommets?

Some people believe it is not disrespectful, as they don’t see grommets as symbolic. Others feel every part of the flag deserves respect, including the grommets. This choice depends on personal beliefs.

Can we make keepsakes with the grommets?

Yes, many people make keepsakes with grommets. Popular ideas include key chains, framed mementos, and small plaques. Keepsakes allow people to hold onto a piece of the retired flag’s history.

Can Scouts keep the grommets as a memory of the ceremony?

Yes, giving grommets to Scouts or ceremony participants is common. It can be a meaningful way to thank them and help them remember their role in the flag’s respectful retirement.

Tiny Rings, Big Questions

Flag grommets are the small metal rings on the edge of a flag. They attach the flag to a pole and keep it secure while flying. When a flag is retired, it’s respectfully burned, but the grommets do not burn. This often raises a question: what should we do with the flag grommets?

Some people believe grommets hold a symbolic value. Although they are not part of the flag’s colors, stars, or stripes, they help the flag do its job. For this reason, some choose to treat grommets with respect, burying them with the ashes or saving them as keepsakes. Others feel grommets are just practical parts with no special meaning. They see the fabric, stars, and stripes as the only real symbols. Because of this, some people choose to simply discard grommets after a retirement ceremony.

There are many ways to handle flag grommets respectfully. Popular options include burying them, giving them to veterans or the flag’s donor, or turning them into keepsakes. Common keepsake ideas include key chains, framed displays, or plaques. For some, these mementos are a way to carry a piece of the flag’s history with them.

In the end, what to do with flag grommets comes down to personal choice. People approach them differently, but most agree on one thing: respect for the flag. Whether they are kept as mementos or returned to the earth with the ashes, flag grommets continue to be a small yet meaningful part of honoring our flag.

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20 responses to “Flag Grommets from Retirement Ceremony: Unique and Respectful Ideas for 2024”

  1. LIScouter Avatar
    LIScouter

    A scouter friend told me to clean them up, and make them into medals for the scouts who conducted the retirement ceremony. I use red, white and blue stripped ribbon. Cubs love them.

  2. Bill Avatar
    Bill

    Our pack does a flag retirement as part of our campfire ceremony during our campouts. The grommets are collected from the ashes and kept until Memorial Day when we help place a US Flag on every grave site at Camp Nelson National Cemetery. The Scouts can then place a grommet in the ground next to a headstone as a display of respect for the service members sacrifice for our country.

    1. Jessica Avatar
      Jessica

      This is beautiful. Thank you so much for sharing!!

    2. Jessica Green Avatar
      Jessica Green

      Leaving the grommet, while a sentimental thought, is in direct opposition to Leave No Trace. Flags that are placed by your gorup, or any BSA Good Turn event, are recollected after the holiday. A metal grommet being left behind is actually littering.

  3. Vickie Avatar
    Vickie

    I think we will polish up the grommets, place them on a survival/braided leather type key chain and present to our SM at our next COH. The boys may also do the same with theirs. In hopes that they may always remember.

  4. Jessica Avatar
    Jessica

    I plan to do a retirement ceremony with our pack. I will be contacting our local VFW post to request that a few veterans attend to help teach the boys about the ceremony, and also for the boys to feel connected with the veterans who served for them, even before they were born. I plan to make a small mimento for each veteran with one of the Grommets to thank them. Something framed, patriotic, centimental – using the scout crest and our pack number.

  5. Cristy Avatar
    Cristy

    We presented a grommet to each boy who participated in the retirement ceremony. Many of them use theirs as a neckerchief slide. It serves as a great reminder of such a memorable event.

  6. Shawn Avatar
    Shawn

    We hand ours out to the scouts who helped in retiring the flags. Was told they also could be hung on flag pole to keep track of how many flags have been replaced.

  7. Mary Avatar
    Mary

    Our Webelos conduct an annual flag retirement ceremony for our pack. I gather the grommets from the ashes afterwards and make them a special neckerchief slide. On the back of the slide I write the date of the ceremony. I make lots of slides for my boys (kind of sort of an addiction!) These slides seem to always be one they treasure most 🙂

    1. sunshine Avatar
      sunshine

      Mary do you think you could email me a picture of what your slide looks like? Scoutingfor2011n346@gmail.com
      Thank you so much!

      1. Chris Kuehl Avatar
        Chris Kuehl

        Hi I a m a assistant cubmaster and we just did a flag retirement on the 4th of July. The last time we retired flags I made a key holder with a grommet. Each scout who participated got a key ring with a grommet. I would like to try a neckchief slide with a grommet. Could I please see a picture of one.

        Thank You
        Chris

    2. Chris Kuehl Avatar
      Chris Kuehl

      could you please emal apicture of your slide. I like your idea of the slide for all my boys. We are doing a flag retirement on Veterans Day. Thank You

      day

    3. Bryan Avatar
      Bryan

      If you still have a photo could you email it to me? Thank you! Bvhunts@yahoo.com

  8. Jason Avatar
    Jason

    I made 550 paracord tabs and connected them to the grommets for key rings, etc. I was given a grommet by my friend and a former scout, who was later killed in action in Iraq 2007. I still have the grommet and since then, I’ve collected more through flag retirements and given them with the paracord tabs to friends who knew him. I’m currently making some for his family, with black, yellow, and ACU camo cord to signify the colors of the 1st Cav. Battalion US ARMY (my friend’s unit). It’s a nice way to be reminded of him whenever I’m out driving or simply grabbing my keys for the day.

  9. Doc Avatar
    Doc

    My troop retired American flags during a special ceremony while attending a summer trip to Gettysburg. The ceremony was so moving that I wanted to do something for everyone who was in attendance–a way to remember the event in a special way.

    I came across an article about the origins of the Wood Badge:(https://www.ctyankee.org/fs/page/001148/originswoodbadgegilwqellfs145001.pdf) Baden-Powell envisioned a number of ways to wear the bead. One such method was for it to be worn in the button-hole of a coat.

    So I tied each of the flag grommets on to pieces of leather using a diamond knot on one end and a lanyard knot on the other. The boys wear this “badge” dangling under the left side pocket flap of their uniforms. It has been said that if the grommet is worn close to the heart it bring s the wearer good luck.

  10. Drew Fullhart Avatar
    Drew Fullhart

    I believe in giving them to a member of the color guard who retired the flag and then they are to be worn around the neck. Close to your heart. The grommets are part of the flag. And should be treated with the same respect s flag gets. A couple yesrs ago. We wrote letters to wounded servicemen and women in the armed forces hospital in D.C. (can’t remember the name) and I sent a set of grommets with my letter. And honestly. I wouldn’t agree with a neckercheif slide (or a waggle) but I’ve seen kids wearing them as pocket hangers on a string. Which I say is acceptable. Just don’t mske them into jewelry. Godspeed to you.

  11. Joe Avatar
    Joe

    This was my post on FB recently. “Tonight I had the honor of participating in a flag retirement ceremony here at Camp Red Moon Island. The Arrow of Light scouts from the Chattahoochee Council performed an amazing, respectful, somber ceremony, that in all honesty it was the most moving tribite that I have ever witnessed in my 26 years of service the this nation. I dont have any pictures, I stood in silent tribute. I wish I knew the parents of each of the 30 plus scouts that participated in tonights cetemony so I could personally thank them for these young men. God bless them and the United States of America!” My follow up post was “I was asked what the significance was of the grommet the Boy Scouts presented to me Saturday night. Every flag has two grommets, usually made of brass, which are used to raise and lower it. That is how a grommet serves. Once a flag has completed its service it is retired by burning it. After the fire is out, Boy Scouts collect the grommets from the ashes and present one to a veteran, or active duty service member, or police officer, or somebody else who serves; as a token of respect for the service they have rendered to the nation and the flag. They can put it on their key chain, or in a shadow box or something similar. In that way, the grommet continues to serve, as a reminder of the flag that proudly waves over this great nation. Now you know why I was so moved by this gesture, four young men I had never met before this weekend chose to honor me with the first one recovered. Those are four extraordinary and thoughtful young men that any Boy Scout troop could be proud of, and I certainly hope they understood just how honored I was by their simple gesture and how much that little piece of brass means to me.”

  12. Bruce Woods Avatar
    Bruce Woods

    I was part of the Boy Scouts of America for two years and I tried to get my eagle. In the two years I spent with my troop I myself retired ten American flags. I took a grommet from each flag, bungee-like cord from and old book bag, and using two taunt line hitches I turned them into a necklace I wear everywhere. I was told that when you retire a flag that if the next morning you siphon through the ashes and pick them out it is considered good luck. I am usually skeptical of the whole good luck bad luck, but every time I wear them something good does happen.

  13. Robin Avatar
    Robin

    I use them to make unique neckerchief slides for the kids that attend the ceremony.

  14. Colleen Rude-Hulbert Avatar
    Colleen Rude-Hulbert

    I am a Star Maker for the “Stars for our Troops” Program. It is a 501c3 non-profit corporation. We just received a request from another organization to send them the Grommets…Why you ask…Because they are using the metal to make a new bell for the USS Arizona.

    Contact is:
    Terry Harroun
    5752 S. Tiger Lily Place
    Tucson, Arizona 85747
    email: t.harroun@gmail.com

    (Please send her the # of grommets you are sending and the Tracking # from your package) You will need to go inside to mail them due to weight and container.

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