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Did You Ever Do a Den Meeting on Bullying?

This question was sent to me by reader Barbara:

It has come to my knowledge that one of my boys (Webelos) is being bullied in school. Now, one of my new recruits is one of the bulliers. I would like to do a den meeting on bullying awareness. Maybe you can be of some help. Thanks.

I have never done a meeting on bullying, but it is certainly a topic which would fit within the Cub Scout program, especially if there are issues between the Scouts in your den. If your pack is affiliated with a school, a first step might be to check with the school about their anti-bullying curriculum. If there is already something in place, it might be helpful to learn the same terminology and anti bullying advice being taught there so you can reinforce the message.

A service project related to bullying awareness and dealing with conflicts could be used as part of the Messengers of Peace program.

Other Bullying Resources

Another step might be to check with your local council about what resources they have available. I am often amazed at the things council has brochures and programs for. Sometimes all it takes is a phone call to get some great resources. Heart of America Council has some bullying resources available on their website, including a Power Point presentation and a script to go with it. These are aimed more at adults, but they might provide you with some direction.

You might also want to check out this article on bullying from Scouting magazine.

The BSA Cyber Chip program focuses on preventing technology based issues. Topics include cyberbullying, cell phone use, texting, blogging, gaming, and identity theft.

Do you have some advice which Barbara might find helpful? Leave a comment below.

 

One Response to Did You Ever Do a Den Meeting on Bullying?

  1. Liv Jones November 12, 2018 at 9:29 AM #

    Hi fellow Scout Moms, I have run several bully based Den, Pack & Troop meetings. I started doing this 14 years ago when I had a similar situation between boys in a Den. There is good news on this topic, first there are far more resources on how to prevent and deal with bullying now then there was when I first had to deal with this issue. Second is there is hope. The Scouts you mentioned are Webelos, they are still young enough we can influence their behavior and choices.

    The first bit of advice is know your Scouts. Some Scouts respond well to a “lecture” format, while some respond to role playing or testimonials. If your Scouts tend to tune out if you talk for more than a few minutes, then I suggest a role playing game. What I did was I used 3×5 cards and wrote out mean things on some cards and on others I wrote phrases to defuse the situation. Then I had the kids act them out. When I had bullying within my den I made sure that the 2 scouts with an issue were paired together at least once but with the real life roles reversed. After our bullying game, I focused on team building activities. I thought if I can get the kids to work together towards a common goal, while having fun, maybe things would improve. Turns out I was right, after about 6 weeks the former bully started defending the former victim to other kids. The one thing I will point out is that at this age kids can “smell a con”. Even though I added the teamwork games and tasks I did not alter our preplanned meeting activities, I simply added a few minutes to our meetings to throw these in. Kids in 4th and 5th grade will start to resist if they feel like things are being forced on them.

    I hope this helps, or at least gives you a starting point. Good luck.

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